September 8, 2014

-
I rubbed Dad's back for 20 minutes in the evening because he was in such terrible pain.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Spring 2017 - The spreading of ashes

-
Image
On January 29, 2017, I recieved a spiritual prompting during Sacrament Meeting in church that I needed to approach Mayor George Bohne that day and ask if I could spread Dad's ashes at Corner Lake. I followed the prompting and Mayor Bohne was surprised at me approaching him so earnestly, but gave permission and also said to let the CAO, Scott Barton know. and I did just that... Scott responded very quickly and very kindly... The weather was crap that year and my mom finally told me that dealing with the ashes would be too difficult for her, as she was still very much healing from the abuse. I ended up having to get the ashes delivered to me and I left them in the garage until I was able to get a friend of my mom's named Mabel to drive me out to the lake, as Mom figured I would be in no emotional shape to drive after doing that, and Mom and Alvin were off in B.C.. Mabel stayed in the car and I lugged the very heavy bag of ashes down to the shoreline, sat on the gras...
Read more

October 16, 2018 - The Conners

-
I watched the premiere of 'The Conners' tonight and so many emotions filled my mind.... Roseanne Conner died of an opiod overdose, a fatal consequence of an untreated addiction that she managed to get others to feed. My birth father died of Stage 4 cancer of the adrenal gland, which was caused by years of alcohol and sometimes drug abuse. He drank even after he was diagnosed and he also mixed booze and pain pills, so his decline was quick, painful, and sometimes psychotic. I am familiar with what death by addiction can do to a family. After the death of my birth father, my family was left with nothing and we managed to score a rental trailer for a year and later on, an apartment in the city when Mom and I both made the decision to pursue There were a few points in the movie where the family finds stashes of Roseanne's pills all over the house and they quickly realize how deep her addiction was. It reminded me of how my birth father used to hide bottles of any kind all...
Read more

October 8, 2014 - Caregiver stress

-
Being a caregiver to someone who is dying of a serious illness is exhausting and at some point, a lot of dying people need to go into care of have respite help because the caregiver or caregivers cannot handle the job anymore or they are burnt out from all the work. It is very rude when an outsider refers to the caregiver or caregivers as selfish and disgraceful for wanting to put the dying family member into care because providing the care is proving overwhelming. If outsiders want a say in the care of a dying person, they need to be willing to provide assistance to the family instead of just sitting on the outside and trying to tell the family of the dying person how to manage things. This story comes because my dad's best buddy, Steve Grainger of Lethbridge, visited and during his visit, I mentioned that my mom was tired and thinking of putting my dad in a community bed at Good Sams so she could rest, as caretaking was exhausting. Steve called me disgraceful and rude for sayin...
Read more